“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”
Wayne Walter Dyer (born May 10, 1940) is an American self-help author and motivational speaker.
Early life and education
Dyer was born in Detroit, Michigan, to the late Melvin Lyle and Hazel Irene Dyer and spent much of his childhood (until he was ten years old) in an orphanage on the east side of Detroit. After graduation from Denby High School Dyer served in the United States Navy from 1958 to 1962. He received his DEd degree in counseling from Wayne State University.
Dyer worked as a high school guidance counselor in Detroit and as a professor of counselor education at St. John’s University in New York City. He pursued an academic career, published in journals and established a private therapy practice. His lectures at St. John’s, which focused on positive thinking and motivational speaking techniques, attracted many students. A literary agent persuaded Dyer to document his theories in his first book called Your Erroneous Zones. Dyer quit his teaching job and began a publicity tour of the United States of America, doggedly pursuing bookstore appearances and media interviews (“out of the back of his station wagon”, according to Michael Korda, making the best-seller lists “before book publishers even noticed what was happening”), which eventually led to national television talk show appearances including Merv Griffin, The Tonight Show, and Phil Donahue.
Dyer proceeded to build on his success with lecture tours, a series of audiotapes, and regular publication of new books. Dyer’s message resonated with many in the New Thought Movement and beyond. He often recounted anecdotes from his family life, and repeatedly used his own life experience as an example. His self-made man success story was a part of his appeal. Dyer told readers to pursue self actualization, calling reliance on the self as a guide to “religious” experience, and suggested that readers emulate Jesus Christ, whom he termed both an example of a self-actualized person, and a “preacher of self-reliance”. Dyer criticized societal focus on guilt, which he saw as an unhealthy immobilization in the present due to actions taken in the past. He advocated readers to see how parents, institutions, and even they, themselves, have imposed guilt trips upon themselves.
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
Although Dyer initially resisted the spiritual tag, by the 1990’s he had altered his message to include more components of spirituality when he wrote the book Real Magic, and discussed higher consciousness, in the book Your Sacred Self.
Dyer has been criticized by some PBS viewers for his appearances on PBS during their pledge drives and his teachings have been characterized by some of these viewers as superficial platitudes that lack rigor and have limited practical or intellectual value.
In May 2010, author Stephen Mitchell, husband of New Age author Byron Katie, filed a suit against Dyer for plagiarism, accusing him of taking 200 lines of his interpretation of the Tao Te Ching for his books Living the Wisdom of the Tao and Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life.
Psychotherapist Albert Ellis writes that Wayne Dyer’s book Your Erroneous Zones is probably “the worst example” of plagiarism of Ellis’ Rational Emotive Therapy (RET). In a 1985 letter to Dyer, Ellis claims that Dyer had participated in a workshop Ellis gave on RET before Dyer published his book, in which Dyer appeared to understand RET very well. Ellis adds that “300 or more people have voluntarily told me … that [the book] was clearly was derived from RET.” Ellis admonishes Dyer for unethically and unprofessionally not giving Ellis credit as the book’s primary source, but expresses overall gratitude for Dyer’s work, writing: “Your Erroneous Zones is a good book, … it has helped a great number of people, and … it outlines the main principles of RET quite well, … with great simplicity and clarity.”
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”
Dyer has been married three times. He has a daughter, Tracy, from his first wife, Judy. His second wife was Susan Casselman (no children). He has five children (Skye, Summer, Serena, Sands, and Sage) with his third wife, Marcelene, who has two children (Shane and Stephanie) from a prior marriage. Wayne and Marcelene legally separated in 2001 after twenty years of marriage.
“My beliefs are that the truth is a truth until you organize it, and then becomes a lie. I don’t think that Jesus was teaching Christianity, Jesus was teaching kindness, love, concern, and peace. What I tell people is don’t be Christian, be Christ-like. Don’t be Buddhist, be Buddha-like.” “Religion is orthodoxy, rules and historical scriptures maintained by people over long periods of time. Generally people are raised to obey the customs and practices of that religion without question. These are customs and expectations from outside the person and do not fit my definition of spiritual.”
- Ambition to Meaning [January 2009], re-released as The Shift [April 2009] by Hay House
- Day & Night (2010), an animated short film created by Pixar and which was shown along with Toy Story 3 during the movie’s opening in the U.S., featured an excerpt from one of Dyer’s lectures.
“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
- The Happiness of Our Children
- Courage Overcoming Fear and Igniting Self-confidence
- Secrets of Manifesting a Spiritual Guide for Getting What You Want
- I Am Wishes Fulfilled Meditations
- Wishes Fulfilled
- Dr Wayne W Dyer Living the Wisdom of the Tao 2011 Datebook
- The Shift Taking Your Life From Ambition to Meaning
- Inspiration Your Ultimate Calling
- A New Way of Thinking a New Way of Being Experiencing the Tao Te Ching
- No Excuses How What You Say Can Get in Your Way
- Stop the Excuses How to Change Lifelong Thoughts
- Excuses Begone How to Change Lifelong Self-defeating Thinking Habits
- Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life Living the Wisdom of the Tao
- Your Ultimate Calling 365 Ways to Bring Inspiration Into Your Life
- Living the Wisdom of the Tao the Complete Tao Te Ching and Affirmations
- Your Erroneous Zones
“Passion is a feeling that tells you: this is the right thing to do. Nothing can stand in my way. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says. This feeling is so good that it cannot be ignored. I’m going to follow my bliss and act upon this glorious sensation of joy.”
Success Tips from an Advice Guru Wayne Dyer
Don’t be greedy
“We only need so much to survive, but this world we live in tells us we need more stuff to be happy,” Dyer said. “We’re inundated with our televisions, the Internet and advertising that says in order to be happy you have to have these things. When you say, ‘Gimme, gimme, gimme,’ you will always be in short supply. But if you ask, ‘How may I serve?’ things will come to you. You attract who you are.”
Forgive the unforgivable
Even though Dyer never met his father, he still managed to forgive him after he died. “I went to his grave site and I was able to forgive him and get rid of my rage and anger,” he said. “Until you are able to do that with anyone in your life—whether it’s family or a friend, or someone you work with—you can’t move forward and bring true joy into your life.”
“Your reputation is in the hands of others. That’s what the reputation is. You can’t control that. The only thing you can control is your character.”
“Real success comes through service and gratitude,” Dyer said. “I don’t have a vision board with a new Mercedes or a new watch. I wake up each day and ask, ‘What can I give?’ The first thing I do every single morning is I say, ‘Thank you,’ and I pick a letter up, or sometimes I call somebody. And I try to give back. I ask, ‘How may I serve somebody?’ ”
Check your ego at the door
“The ego makes us think we are separate from each other and therefore special. But we are not,” Dyer said. “So if you go through your day thinking you are better than someone else, or more worthy of success, you completely disconnect from source. You are competing and thinking you are special. And this prevents you from bringing in your greatest gifts.”
Remember that anything is possible
Now battling “and winning” his own fight against leukemia, Dyer says he is beating the odds by focusing on the positive, and getting inspiration from others.
“There is a woman named Anita Moorjani who had terminal cancer,” he said. “Nobody has ever come back from cancer at this stage. She had 24 tumors the size of lemons throughout her entire body. She was in a coma for four and a half weeks. She was technically dead. Yet she woke up and she has completely healed. No doctors can explain it. It’s the most incredible miracle I have ever witnessed in my life. So you have to ignore the naysayers and those who say something isn’t possible or it can’t happen.” [From: Drwaynedyer.com]
“The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if
what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant
forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality.”
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